The Slaves Role in a FemDom Relationship
We have chosen the M/s or Master Slave form for our marriage of 17 years. It goes a step beyond the normal Female Led Relationship and we enjoy those differences in degree of submission and O/p Owner property status. My sole purpose is to serve Mistress. The service itself is the reward, nothing more needed. Whenever I feel myself slipping out of my submissive space I find it helpful to review my consensual slavery contract. I also know that this is a signal to myself to look for more ways to SERVE Mistress and to work harder to make her life easier. In these ways I am self regulating.
Although the below are not exactly from our own consensual slavery contract (which we consider private) it is representative.
The slave agrees to submit completely to the Mistress in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the Mistress without risking punishment. The slave also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, their body belongs to their Mistress to be used as seen fit, within the guidelines defined herein. All of the slave’s possessions likewise belong to the Mistress, including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as she sees fit. The slave agrees to please the Mistress to the best of their ability, in that they now exist solely for the bidding and pleasure of said Mistress.
Below is from the excellent and highly recommended book on FLR called Uniquely Rika:
True submission: The slave’s role is true submission. True submission is not about what the owner does TO the slave, it’s about what the slave does FOR the Mistress.
True dominance: Dominance is the acceptance and leverage of submission (slavery.)
Role of the submissive:
The role of the submissive is to make his partners life easier. He will devote all of his energies to removing obstacles from her path and providing all the assistance he is capable of so that all of her desires are fulfilled. His role is one of complete service to the unique needs of his Mistress asking or demanding nothing in return.
Role of the Dominant:
The role of the dominant is to give direction and feedback. The woman accepts her partners offer of service and agrees to give direction and feedback. His job is to please her, hers is to make it clear how he can succeed – and to acknowledge him when he does. She accepts his submission from a position of dominance meaning she takes on an attitude of expectation. She expects him to carry out his side of the agreement.
Serving the Queen:
The way the man should treat his partner is analogous to the way a knight serves his Queen. He demands nothing and acts only according to her will but also independently, in her best interests. He represents her outside of her presence, taking that responsibility with deep reverence. His world revolves around her. His every action is in her service. She cares deeply for her knight, relies on him to carry out and enforce her will and trusts him to act in accordance with her laws and desires.
I’ve made this post as a form of checkin and realignment. Now back to the work of letting go deeper into service and submission. There is much work to be done this morning.
- Sub Vs Slave (ddirewytch.wordpress.com)