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So as far as the rules she laid down they were pretty simple and that was basically that she would decide when I needed punished and she would decide when I’d learned my lesson. I would have no say in how I was punished or when I’d had enough. She said it would not be something I would enjoy and I would be very sorry for getting myself into that situation. She said this was the only way I could truly learn from it was to receive a proper no nonsense firm spanking. And I agreed to this not really knowing what to expect at first but believe me I do now, and she was right it’s not something that’s enjoyed.
Of course I’d be lying if I said at first the fantasy side of my brain wasn’t excited at the prospect of this new lifestyle. And even at times now I get excited thinking about a spanking. But believe me when I say Dianne makes sure that excitement is short lived once over her lap. Shortly into a spanking all I can think about is when is this going to be over. But I will say she is very fair and has my best interest at heart and I know this. And I also realize she would never do anything to cause me any real harm. So I trust her fully which is key to this type of arrangement.
As time has gone on I’m getting spanking’s less frequently which is a testament to her ability to give a proper punishment spanking. Now people have asked her how she can spank me for punishment when I have a thing or fantasy for spanking. But believeme as I said once over her knee or on the bed or bent over that fantasy becomes very real and very painful. But more importantly than the pain I think is the emotional state of mind I’m in that makes it effective. When I’m in trouble she’s very stern and I know without any doubt she’s upset with me and I’m in trouble. This causes butterflies in your stomach and in my mind I know I’m getting ready to receive a real punishment. If it were role play for instance in your mind you would know that you were just acting out a scene. But when I screw up I realize this is no scene and I’m in real trouble. It’s no different from knowing at the job or anywhere else that you’ve messed up and there’s going to be consequences. It’s the same feeling except these consequences are going to result in a spanking. Believe me it takes you down a peg or two and makes your feel really bad for getting yourself in this situation.
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