“We believe in the Prophecy that predicts a global event that will destroy much of the world that exists today, and that this event will be followed by a big change where all power once held by males is shifted to the females.
“It is called the Prophecy of the “Second Eden” because it is now Eve who will rule, and it is Adam who must now be subject to Her will. The new world will begin as small communal societies ruled by women. Not just ordinary women, but extra-ordinary women who are Dominant. These are women who all share in a belief that it was the Goddess Kali who caused the change that turned the world over to them. These small female dominated communities will evolve into great cities, and then great nations.
“Thus, all powerful women will be those who worship and follow the example of the Goddess who Tramples Man Beneath Her Feet. The new Religious Belief is that it is the Will of the Goddess that man must atone, and that women must rule over men as their slaves as a condition of man’s atonement. A future time is coming when all men shall be slaves in chains held by women, and all man-kind will wear slave collars as signs of their surrender and abject submission to the woman-kind of our new society.
“We can see the Prophecy already beginning as many, both males and females, are sensing the coming Change and beginning to take their places and assume their respective roles for the coming Change. The act of male submission to female dominance increases more each year. A Change is coming. This is why our church makes a ritual out of an event when a woman places a man in metal bondage as it is a sign of permanence. Placing a slave’s collar on a man acknowledges her power as it demonstrates her conquest of still another male to be made a slave in preparation for the coming Change.
“We take care that no woman allow herself to be possessed by the submission of a single slave who would dare think that he alone is her only slave; thus we encourage women to have multiple male slaves. We seek slaves not just for the moment nor a just for a limited time, but for all time, for life. It is a solemn event and a serious commitment.
“Today we are fortunate to witness a part of the Prophecy which begins with a man kneeling to be collared by a woman as her slave. As an Essemian Priestess, I channel the Spirit of the Goddess who subdues man, the Goddess Kali. See the women who stand with me here now. They are my Dakinis. A Dakini is a female assistant to Kali whose mission it is to strike fear in the hearts of men in the name of Kali. Through me, these Dakinis here also channel the power of the Goddess. They are here to witness this event. They may even strike some fear in the heart of the man on his knees here today. Let us proceed.
“Will the woman who is to collar a slave here now, please step forward and identify herself by the name or title she wishes to be addressed, and share with us her thoughts on what it means for a slave to wear her collar.”
At this point, the woman who will present a slave to collar will bring him out. This day, it is a woman known as the “Steel Goddess.”
Website for the full male slave collaring ritual here
- Lets Mistress know he is aware of the order
- Lets Mistress know he is thankful for the privilege of serving
- Expresses his desire to be of service
- Acknowledging Mistress not only demonstrates respect, but also indicates that he understood what was asked for
- When applicable he will ask how Mistress prefers what has been ordered, demonstrating he is aware of options
2. Go to the Kitchen
- Backup 3 paces, gracefully head to kitchen
- The manner in which he does so should be enticing, attractive and sensuous
3. Preparing the Drink or Food
- Fill the container unless it is one to be served at Mistress feet
- If he is serving food, arrange the meal on the plate, prior to taking to Mistress
- Return to Mistress and any guests being served
- He will make it as visually enticing as when he went to the kitchen
5. Approaching Mistress
- Tower position if before any other dominant other than Mistress
- If in service before Mistress, nadu position
6. Presenting the food and drink
- Always use a tray
- When pouring, he will place it in front or to the side if kneeling tower position
- If food is being served, where applicable place the plate on the table next to Mistress
7. Completing the Service
- He will Mistress being served what she has brought
- He will indicate the pleasure it brought him to serve her
- He will wait for Mistress to take the drink
- He will remain in position until dismissed
- If he is not dismissed, he may ask if there is anything else needed in an effort to remind Mistress to release him
- Return to his feet
The Slaves Role in a FemDom Relationship
We have chosen the M/s or Master Slave form for our marriage of 17 years. It goes a step beyond the normal Female Led Relationship and we enjoy those differences in degree of submission and O/p Owner property status. My sole purpose is to serve Mistress. The service itself is the reward, nothing more needed. Whenever I feel myself slipping out of my submissive space I find it helpful to review my consensual slavery contract. I also know that this is a signal to myself to look for more ways to SERVE Mistress and to work harder to make her life easier. In these ways I am self regulating.
Although the below are not exactly from our own consensual slavery contract (which we consider private) it is representative.
The slave agrees to submit completely to the Mistress in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the Mistress without risking punishment. The slave also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, their body belongs to their Mistress to be used as seen fit, within the guidelines defined herein. All of the slave’s possessions likewise belong to the Mistress, including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as she sees fit. The slave agrees to please the Mistress to the best of their ability, in that they now exist solely for the bidding and pleasure of said Mistress.
Below is from the excellent and highly recommended book on FLR called Uniquely Rika:
True submission: The slave’s role is true submission. True submission is not about what the owner does TO the slave, it’s about what the slave does FOR the Mistress.
True dominance: Dominance is the acceptance and leverage of submission (slavery.)
Role of the submissive:
The role of the submissive is to make his partners life easier. He will devote all of his energies to removing obstacles from her path and providing all the assistance he is capable of so that all of her desires are fulfilled. His role is one of complete service to the unique needs of his Mistress asking or demanding nothing in return.
Role of the Dominant:
The role of the dominant is to give direction and feedback. The woman accepts her partners offer of service and agrees to give direction and feedback. His job is to please her, hers is to make it clear how he can succeed – and to acknowledge him when he does. She accepts his submission from a position of dominance meaning she takes on an attitude of expectation. She expects him to carry out his side of the agreement.
Serving the Queen:
The way the man should treat his partner is analogous to the way a knight serves his Queen. He demands nothing and acts only according to her will but also independently, in her best interests. He represents her outside of her presence, taking that responsibility with deep reverence. His world revolves around her. His every action is in her service. She cares deeply for her knight, relies on him to carry out and enforce her will and trusts him to act in accordance with her laws and desires.
I’ve made this post as a form of checkin and realignment. Now back to the work of letting go deeper into service and submission. There is much work to be done this morning.
- Sub Vs Slave (ddirewytch.wordpress.com)
Good post and some resources on spanking and discipline of submissive husbands:
So as far as the rules she laid down they were pretty simple and that was basically that she would decide when I needed punished and she would decide when I’d learned my lesson. I would have no say in how I was punished or when I’d had enough. She said it would not be something I would enjoy and I would be very sorry for getting myself into that situation. She said this was the only way I could truly learn from it was to receive a proper no nonsense firm spanking. And I agreed to this not really knowing what to expect at first but believe me I do now, and she was right it’s not something that’s enjoyed.
Of course I’d be lying if I said at first the fantasy side of my brain wasn’t excited at the prospect of this new lifestyle. And even at times now I get excited thinking about a spanking. But believe me when I say Dianne makes sure that excitement is short lived once over her lap. Shortly into a spanking all I can think about is when is this going to be over. But I will say she is very fair and has my best interest at heart and I know this. And I also realize she would never do anything to cause me any real harm. So I trust her fully which is key to this type of arrangement.
As time has gone on I’m getting spanking’s less frequently which is a testament to her ability to give a proper punishment spanking. Now people have asked her how she can spank me for punishment when I have a thing or fantasy for spanking. But believeme as I said once over her knee or on the bed or bent over that fantasy becomes very real and very painful. But more importantly than the pain I think is the emotional state of mind I’m in that makes it effective. When I’m in trouble she’s very stern and I know without any doubt she’s upset with me and I’m in trouble. This causes butterflies in your stomach and in my mind I know I’m getting ready to receive a real punishment. If it were role play for instance in your mind you would know that you were just acting out a scene. But when I screw up I realize this is no scene and I’m in real trouble. It’s no different from knowing at the job or anywhere else that you’ve messed up and there’s going to be consequences. It’s the same feeling except these consequences are going to result in a spanking. Believe me it takes you down a peg or two and makes your feel really bad for getting yourself in this situation.
Full post below:
Adapted from a Submissive’s Prayer found on the internet:
Allow me the strength to answer questions I can’t fathom.
Allow me the spirit to know her needs.
Allow me the kindness to choke back retorts.
Allow me the serenity to serve Her in peace.
Allow me the love to show Her myself.
Allow me the tenderness to comfort Her.
Allow me the light to show us the way.
Allow me the wisdom to be an asset to Her.
Let me be able to show Her each day my love of my service to Her.
Let me open myself up to completely belong to Her.
Let my eyes show Her the same respect, rather I sit at her side, or kneel at her feet.
Let me accept my punishment with the grace of a man.
Let me learn to please Her, beyond myself.
Grant me the power to give myself to Her completely.
Give me the strength to please us both.
Permit me to love myself, in loving Her.
Allow me the peace of serving Her.
For it is my greatest wish, my highest power To make her life complete,as she makes mine.
Master, owner of my body and director of my will, you are with me. I am thankful that I serve you. Let me be transparent as glass, that my heart may be visible always, for my entire self, even unto the workings of my mind, are yours. Master, I honor you with my service and submit to you with my thoughts, words, and deeds, so that I may be a reflection of your will, and the manifestation of your desires.
Master, I am your slave and your property. I will work and I will sacrifice that I may reflect your intentions, and make of myself a window to the soul you own. Use me Master, as you see fit, that I may learn to serve and to submit to you in all things.
In gratitude I serve, and in thankfulness I submit, and in peace I honor my Master with my trust.
Exerpt from the book Female Domination by Elise Sutton:
“What women must keep in mind about Female Domination is the fact that men need it. It is almost always the man who will introduce the female domination lifestyle to the woman. A courageous man with submissive desires introduces female domination to his female partner. Why do men do this? It’s because men desire and need to be in submission to women. No matter how hard society or religion tries to tell men differently, something deep inside of them yearns to surrender to a powerful woman. These desires grow stronger with age and men will spend countless hours dreaming and fantasizing about Female Domination. Men will pursue these desires and struggle with these desires trying to come to terms with them but sadly a man will not come to terms with these desires until he truly has a relationship with a woman that can explore these desires with him in a loving manner.”
“The other side of this dynamic is that women who embrace the dominant role and who allow their dominant nature to come out, end up absolutely loving this lifestyle. It never ceases to amaze me how many women who once were real hesitant about being dominant, end up loving it so much that they later say that they would never go back to being in submission to a man or only having vanilla sex (intercourse) with a man. This lifestyle is liberating to women and it is also liberating for men as they can now fulfill that yearning within them.”
Personal Note: I can certainly say that this is all true in my case. I have led a very normal male-centric lifestyle all of my life. The one supported by society at large the world over with few exceptions. Since embracing the FemDom lifestyle I have never been happier. I just got done folding the laundry which included about 20 pairs of my wife’s lacy underwear. Not only did it free her up for more important tasks but it was a major turn on for me at the same time. Ms Aegea and I are having sex more than ever and I have not had an orgasm in weeks yet she has had many. That is how it should be! Staying sexually frustrated keeps me attentive to her needs and close by her side every chance I get. Every act of service to her feels like a great privilidge and a satisfying turn on at the same time. Where I used to stay pretty much focused on fulfilling my own selfish needs and desires I now focus on her happiness almost exclusively. It feels very normal to me as I slip deeper and deeper into a submissive role similar to the normal female role in our male dominated society as it stands now. I feel very comfortable being submissive to the Superior Female and to Ms Aegea in particular.
Personal Note: I have seen the post below in different places on the internet regarding how to condition your husband to do chores around the house or basically whatever you want him to do by harnessing his sex drive. It is a vanilla version of conditioning and there is some stealth involved if the unsuspecting husband doesn’t know what the woman is up to. To this I can’t agree, however conditioning techniques such as these certainly work in a consensual D/s or M/s relationship such as mine. Other techniques such as NLP or even hypnosis have been used in a consensual way in D/s, M/s relationships to overcome resistance and deepen submission. In my case serving is its own reward.
See repost below:
A primary reinforcer is any reward your husband will work to get, and which will increase or maintain a behavior. Of all the rewards that you could offer your husband, sex is far and away the most powerful. Sex, therefore, serves as the core, primary reinforcer. Simply put, under the right circumstances, your husband will do virtually anything to have sex with you. A secondary reinforcer, or a conditioned reinforcer, is any previously neutral stimulus that acquires reinforcing properties through an association with a primary reinforcer over a period of time. Lingerie a secondary reinforcer, albeit one that he has almost certainly already associated with sex. As a practical matter, you cannot use sex to reward your husband for every good deed. Secondary reinforcers are therefore critical to an effective training program.
There are two types of behavioral conditioning: respondent conditioning and operant conditioning. In respondent conditioning, a neutral stimulus, such as words of praise, is paired with a primary reinforcer, such as sex. Through a repetition of the pairing, the neutral stimulus takes on the ability to elicit the response, it becomes a secondary reinforcer. Note that a secondary reinforcer may be paired with still another neutral stimulus to create a tertiary reinforcer but such a reinforcer will tend to be weaker than one paired with a primary reinforcer. It is therefore always better to associate new secondary reinforcers with your primary reinforcer, sex. Note that operant conditioning refers to behaviors that are not under your husband’s control. Your husband is naturally aroused by sex. Use the secondary reinforcer to mark the exact instant of behavior for which your husband is going to be rewarded. If, for example, you pair sex with words of praise then the words of praise will come to arouse your husband by themselves. When your husband learns that words of praise are always followed by sex, the words of praise are said to be conditioned.
Operant conditioning is the process in which the frequency of occurrence of a behavior is modified by the consequences of the behavior. It is the process by which you modify a behavior under your husband’s control by manipulating and controlling the consequences to him of the behavior. If positively reinforced, the likelihood of the behavior being repeated increases. If punished, the likelihood of the behavior being repeated decreases.
Once your husband has learned a behavior well, you will want to start rewarding intermittently. Not knowing when the reward will come, what the reward will be or how big the reward will be strengthens the behavior. Think of it like rolling a single six-sided die. The number you would get would be variable. Example: You might want to reward a behavior after 2 times, 6 times, 4 times, 1 time, etc. You might want to offer sex one time, words of praise the next time, a wet kiss the next time, a flash of your nipple another time. Note: it is very discouraging to your husband if you simply make it harder and harder to get a reward. Random variability, not rising expectations, is critical.
Your husband’s penis is the most sensitive area of his body. It not entirely without exaggeration that we say that a man thinks with his penis. Think of your husband’s penis as a magic button you can press at virtually any time and deliver pure pleasure to him. The one obvious exception is that your husband’s sex drive will fall off entirely immediately after he has achieved an orgasm. Depending on his age and physical condition, it may take minutes, hours, or days for him to recover his sex drive.
While husbands enjoy intercourse immensely, it is not the most practical way to deliver stimulation and reinforcement. Intercourse, whatever the position, is generally too distracting for you. And if your husband is on top, he, not you, will tend to control it. You should reserve intercourse as a final reward and the end of the training session and for constructing secondary reinforcers.
At the same time, you should be developing secondary reinforcers. As and when you stimulate his penis, deliver additional stimulations. These additional stimulations may be sight, smell, touch, and sound. Some such stimulants will necessarily be more precise than others but all will acquire a positive association with the stimulation of his penis. The sight of your breasts is an example of a visual stimulation. You can add a smell stimulant by wearing a special perfume during your training sessions. He will come to associate the smell of the perfume with sex. Touch is a more precise stimulation. As you stimulate his penis, you can touch him in other, non-sexual ways. For example, you might give him a quick double-pat on his thigh. Similarly, you can add sound stimulation by delivering specific words or phrases along with the stimulation of his penis. For example, “very good” or “what a wonderful husband you are.” You can take it further by using a unique, i.e. sexy, tone of voice.
In addition to such training sessions in bed, you should begin to reward his behavior out of bed. For example, if he does the dishes, you should reward him. Your primary reinforcement is sex. So rewarding him for doing the dishes with your primary reinforcer would involve inviting him, then and there, to go to the bedroom with you to make love. Obviously, this is not a very practical course of action.
Instead, this is where you introduce your secondary reinforcers. If, for example, he washes the dishes, you give him a double-tap on his thigh or whisper in his ear, “what a wonderful husband you are” in your special, sexy voice or flash your bare breast. If he has made a big effort to prepare dinner for you, you can go and put on special perfume for dinner.
In the beginning, you should consistently reinforce your husband for the desired behavior. Once you have trained your husband to perform a desired behavior on a regular basis, though, you should switch to a random reinforcement. While true randomness is ideal, it should be adequate to simply vary the reinforcement according to your whim. It is crucial, though, not to otherwise raise the bar. You can teach him to do new things for you but you should not reduce the reinforcement over time. You must maintain at least a random reinforcement of each desired behavior or the behavior will become extinguished.
Interestingly, while doing chores is a behavior that you are encouraging through positive reinforcement, it may also happen that certain aspects of doing the chores will become secondary reinforcers themselves. For example, as you train your husband to wash the dishes, and reinforce that behavior, your husband may come to indirectly associate the experience of washing the dishes with sex. The more consistent and powerful the reinforcement, the more likely and strongly will be that association. Your husband may actually become aroused by washing the dishes. Thus, over time, washing the dishes may become its own reward. Once such an association is made between a chore and sex, you can use the chore as a reinforcer. For example, if your husband fails to do the dishes and he discovers you doing them, this will be a punishment. By doing the dishes you are depriving him of something which gives him sexual pleasure.
I often find I have become sexually excited at the darnest times. I may be ironing her clothes, cleaning the bathrooms, preparing dinner, washing dishes — you name it. And I realize I have an erection. I get excited every time I think about her. I get excited sometimes when I am doing the most mundane of chores for her. She may not even be at home and yet I have become excited just knowing I am serving her in some fashion.
Similarly, you can create an association between general submissive behavior and sex so that he becomes aroused by his own expressions of submission to you.
Unless your husband is a complete moron, he will figure out what you are up to sooner or later. But the training, of course, is very pleasant for your husband. If you are careful to match the pace of training to his receptivity, it is most likely that your husband will cooperate in his training. Simply back off when he objects. Press ahead when he is enthusiastic.
What is most intriguing about these training techniques is that they work even if your husband is entirely aware of what you are doing. The behavior modification techniques will affect him at a deep, subconscious level. You will fundamentally change the way he thinks about doing the chores.
Indeed, some husbands have likened it to creating an addiction. As the training progresses, the husband becomes addicted to the reward system such that, even though he understands, intellectually, why he craves to do the chores, and even though he is entirely aware that you have used sex to train him, still, he will feel a deep, irrefutable craving to do the chores for you. Doing the chores becomes an enjoyable experience for him.
You are, in effect, rewiring his brain to enjoy doing the chores for you. Your husband might initially be willing to make the personal sacrifice to do the chores for you. But as the training progresses, doing the chores will become less a personal sacrifice and more a self indulgence. A wise husband who has committed to serving you will therefore eagerly cooperate in the training.